Resilience

 

A Book Inspires Us To Be Resilient

You can't knock them down. They have Resilience.

Let’s be like Weebles – Resilient.

I wasn’t surprised when I saw that Eric Greitens’ book, Resilience, had been talked about at The Center for Courage and Renewal, a site whose philosophies are aligned with the practical value of Love in business.

In his book, Resilience, Eric shares the letters he exchanged with a combat veteran battling PTSD, and explores the value of simply being resilient when life’s challenges knock us for a loop. He sees Resilience as a state of mind. One that brings patience and kindness when we need it.

That sure looks like Love to us.

Nurturing this state of mind (Resilience) in our organizations helps us navigate the rocky roads we travel in our lives at work, wherever and whatever our challenges might be. Love makes us like Weebles-always bouncing back up.

Fostering Resilience and harnessing the power of patience and kindness for ourselves and others brings the Art of Love is Good Business directly into our workplaces.

Read the excerpt from Eric’s book here at the Center for Courage and Renewal.

Together we can make a difference that matters.

 

Love is Good Business for Every Business

Love is Good Business for Every Business

Love is Good Business is for Every Business in our World

Every business is about people relating to each other.

The Art of Love is Good Business is true for every business we work in, from the mega-corporation to the mom and pop corner store.

We were happy to see an article recently that shows that very point.

Here’s a quote from Starbucks CEO Howard Schultz.

“We’re not in a coffee business serving people. We’re in a people business serving coffee.”

This simple twist on how we think about our businesses helps build the framework we use to relate with our customers, vendors, co-workers, and each other; and, is a big part of what we hope we are sharing here.

To see this coming from the CEO of a large corporation is encouraging.

Read the entire article here:

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/howard-schultz-giving-college-educations-his-employees-daniel-roth

Together we CAN make a difference that truly matters.

Using the Power of Love to Change Business

On Being a Compassionate Irritant

Speak up!

Speak up!

 

The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it is conformity.
- Rollo May

 

One of the most important points we want to make in this blog is that Love is a Utility, a source of Power, to help support business and Human success.

We recently found ourselves talking about how being too agreeable, being too willing to go with the flow, can hinder positive growth and success. And, so, we wanted to share our thoughts about how being a Compassionate Irritant can help people be catalysts for positive change.

In some ways, it seems a paradox, this idea about being a Compassionate Irritant. When we are talking about the Art of Love is Good Business it might appear that we’re talking about rainbows and unicorns–fanciful and unrealistic stuff. That could be interpreted as “Peace at any Price”, or don’t be an irritant, or don’t irritate people.

Actually, Love is what enables us to be a very special kind of irritant. A Compassionate Irritant. Love brings an energy of caring enough about our work, and our fellow Human Beings, to power greater courage to be authentic and express our opinions and ideas.

Expressing ourselves as a Compassionate Irritant could start with something as simple as saying:

I could serve customers better if I had this. What do you think?

I don’t understand why we do things this way. Can you help me understand?

I have an idea. Can we talk about it?

And if that didn’t get anywhere, would we give up? Nope. We would continue to be a Compassionate Irritant. Because compassionately bringing up issues, ideas, and solutions, are the first step on the path to making things better in our world.

By initiating collaborative conversations from our place of Love we can Power positive growth and success for ourselves and the organizations we work with.

We encourage you to be a Compassionate Irritant.

Share a story or comment about your experiences with being a Compassionate Irritant.

Together we can make a difference that matters.


Enhancing Creativity With Love

Enhancing Creativity

When the ideas won’t flow, apply Love.

Creativity is an essential business skill. It brings the “ah-ha” moments—the insights to successfully deal with the day-to-day issues and challenges of performing our jobs. These insights close the gap between our ideals and reality, and move what “can be” into what “is”.

The problem with creativity though is that sometimes we feel it’s not showing up when we need it to.

That’s what happened to me when I was trying to decide what our next blog topic would be.

I was stuck. I couldn’t come up with a creative idea for our next topic. Any possibilities that did appear seemed un-inspired. But by applying the Art of Love is Good Business, a creative solution formed. What follows is a description of the process Arlen and I took.

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Working with Difficult People is Possible with Love

Love is key to working with difficult people

Difficult people can be the key to success.

 

When we find useful content, we like to pass it on to our readers.

This article The One Technique to Get What You Want From Difficult People by Kate Matsudaira is worth sharing.

Kate encourages us to see what’s really behind difficult people and their behaviors by opening our perceptions to other possible motivations. Difficult people really are trying to help even when they contradict or disagree with us.

Her technique changes challenging meetings into collaborative and creative conversations. By bringing our Love to these conversations, we encourage “difficult people” to do the same.

Check out the article: The One Technique to Get What You Want From Difficult People
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You Don’t Have to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone – Expand It!

 

Feeling Exposed and Vulnerable?

Stepping out of our Comfort Zone can feel risky.

 

We’ve all experienced this:

We ask a co-worker or subordinate, “How are things going with that project/employee/problem or ___________________ (fill in the blank)?”

        “Fine,” he or she replies.

        But we know this is not the reality we see.

So why are we often reluctant to ask for help or discuss challenges we are facing?

Vulnerability. Exposure. Risk.

What it boils down to is: we’re not sure how to have conversations that discuss challenges, or ask for help, and still feel comfortable and safe. And, yet, it is these types of conversations in the workplace that will ultimately lead to break-through solutions that transform challenges into opportunities for success.
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Hope and the Art of Love in Business

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While it is not all that apparent, what Dalai Lama shares here about hope is a key part of the ‘Art of Love is Good Business’.

When we look at our Life at work through the lens of Love, we can see hope we would otherwise not see. With hope we have the courage to look through the lens of Love. Love and hope are traveling companions.

When Love and hope shape the way we Live our Life at work, we build strength of character and joy; and a better way to do business.

 

“The very purpose of our life is happiness, which is sustained by hope. We have no guarantee about the future, but we exist in the hope of something better. Hope means keeping going, thinking, ‘I can do this.’ It brings inner strength, self-confidence, the ability to do what you do honestly, truthfully and transparently.”

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How To Be Less Frustrated At Work

“Hunker down. Fight for what you believe in. Nine out of ten days are frustrating. But hang in. And along the way, never lose kindness and decency.”
Tom Peters
       First of all, frustration doesn’t have to hold you in its grip nine out of ten days.
       If you think about it, the frustration arises because we think we know what’s going on. The personal context we bring to any given situation determines the meaning we assign to other people’s actions. For example, if we have a pet peeve about cell phone use during meetings; that it’s rude and disrespectful; we have pre-determined the motivation of another’s action and set ourselves up to be frustrated.

Consider this scenario:

During an important budget meeting one of your department heads was late and is now busily texting away instead of participating. Questions directed to him are answered in mono-syllables. You observe the other managers casting frowns his way.  And you feel your own frustration level rising. “What is this jerk doing?” you ask yourself.

      Wouldn’t everybody feel less frustration if they knew the manager’s mother was in a hospice and he was texting with his wife about his dying mother’s condition? How quickly frustration can turn to caring, and perhaps, even a sense of admiration that the manager is trying so hard to handle his work responsibilities in the face of an impending death. Information leads to an opportunity to shift our attitude.
      With a new attitude of kindness and decency we can make a big difference in this situation. As the meeting leader, we would more likely call for a break to find out what’s going on, as opposed to making a harsh comment about texting or calling out the team mate. The break would give you an opportunity to talk to the manager and discover the underlying reason behind his, what was for you and the other attendees, outrageously frustrating actions. Compassion would further lead you to suggest that another staff member fill in so the department head can be with his wife and mother.
      In the philosophy of Love is Good Business, kindness and decency flow naturally from the Positive Regard we have for our teammates. Positive Regard for others creates a space for our frustration to be channelled in more constructive ways so we don’t say or do something that could be detrimental to our working relationships; or later make us feel inadequate. The practice of Love is Good Business lays the foundation to create openness and authenticity within the workplace encouraging teammates to be forthcoming and real about their internal world, or where they are, at any given moment. This, in turn, enables us to be more open in our support for each other.
      As we come from a place of Love for ourselves and others, kindness and decency naturally follow; so do wiser choices. A simple change of our personal context opens us up to the possibility that we don’t always know why somebody is doing something. Kindness and decency then lead us to find out what’s really going on and, ultimately, provides a way to lessen the number of days we are frustrated at work. 
      Would you share a story about a frustrating incident at your work place and what happened or what you wish had happened? 


 by Michelle DeLaBarre and Arlin Pauler